CHAPTER 19: Make sure to get as much custody

Chapter 19: Make sure to get as much custody and time with children as you can and get more later!

Okay, so even if you are not dad of the year it is important to get as much custody as possible. Why? Once again, Money! If you have a deal to support them 50% of the time you will get a deal of supporting only 50% of their cost, but if your spouse claims you never see them and don't pay your share. She might just drag you back to court, possibly on your dollar to only make you pay even more. Well, at least the kids are getting what they need, right? Not necessarily. Your ex-spouse have no accountability to what they spend that money on. Your kids might be wearing cloths 2 sizes to small and look like kids from Lord of the Flies and you can't do anything about it other then spend the money yourself. If you are paying your spouse and still they are not being cared for the way you would like this is why its important to get as much custody, because you have more of a chance of influencing your children. If you have an irresponsible spouse that just leaves your kids with random people, but you can not prove it. Custody will at least ensure they are somewhere you know and hopefully in a place they can be nurtured and grow. Children need stimulated and good influences to be around. If your ex-spouse has passed that point you might just feel morally obligated to provide a better life for your kids than she does. Your ex-spouse is a train-wreck or one possibly waiting to happen. You do not want to have to pay for even more damage she can cause to your heirs. I mean it, psychological damage to some degree is already occurring plus a set of morals that you do not approve over might be distorting their view of the world. If you kids go off the deep end, and I pray they don't it can be a closely venture in more then physical capital. One more time bomb set by your spouses actions. When your kids grow up if you are a just and honest about your actions and sincere about your actions of love toward your children they have a good chance of understanding, but even better then this is having them with you out of the mess that your spouse is creating.

You are in your own situation, but I must make the plea here to take the road less taken. Be the influence you were meant to be and are now free to be outside you ex-spouse. Your children are innocent by standers in all this and should not be punished by someone else's actions if its in your power to stop it. These are your God given gifts and your are to be the protector over them. Remember that and keep it in mind for every decision. Your spouse may be terrible, but they will see there day. They will be judged by their children, so stay above that judgment and in fact teach them the measure to judge and the mercy to forgive else they may harbor anger that is not healthy and not theirs.

*** USE AT YOUR OWN RISK. I am not a lawyer and this is not to be construed as legal advice. For any legal decision see the proper legal representative. You are the master of your soul.