CHAPTER 15: Stop paying for her, you need to look on paper as poor as you can

CHAPTER 15: Stop paying for her, you need to look on paper as poor as you can

I suggest this ASAP. I know you are in negotiations and there are a lot of tools to use (finances one of the most important) to help improve your results. So as soon as you have decided to get out, it's time to think about spending the money your going to need to fight this battle and you don't need your hard earned money working against you.

For example; a man found himself in need of the majority of the money in the checking/saving account to pay for the law and additional cost of living (he had to move out) in this new changing/uncertain environment. In fact he also required his pay check be cashed out and not deposited. By the time him and his wife got to the lawyers office bills were coming due for his wife, but there just was no money for it. In fact she was willing to cut a deal just to get a little help to make those bill, she settled her debts a bit quickly to the husbands surprise.

Got credit cards? They may suddenly disappear, in fact they are commonly stolen. These take up to a week or more without them and get new numbers sent somewhere else. If those cards are still in both your names still, get them off, NOW! Most credit card companies have 24 hour numbers. Get it done.

Later, darn if she did not call you asking to be helped out of a jam like you are Saint Peter. She just needs a little money to float her till [whenever]. CLOSE THAT DOOR, LOCK IT, and BLOW IT UP before she start thinking your still an ATM.

Some perfectly good excuses (that say nothing):

No, your strapped.

I'm broke, this took my last dollar.

Half of struggling is no prospering.

I can hardly make it as it is.

Does not matter the reason unless its about your kids. Then put all the trust you would into a stranger like a homeless person that wants money and refuses food or clothing. She knows how to lie and odds are she will become more inventive with them. If she used you once she will always sense your weakness. Don't let it show again. No rides. No my car broke down, other then to pick up the kids from her. Her lot is her lot. Any fortune or misfortune is their own.

Now, I know this either sounds harsh or to gentle depending on if you feel you need to be fair and just to her or just hate her gusts and hope she has a seat in Hell. The fact is in either way “I want”, “Gimme, Gimme”, “Pretty Please” are not as attractive when you know they ran over your heart and continue to do so. You can not buy them back! You can only fund them into someone else which will only make you more miserable. Let God sort it out. You have more important things to be working on in your life to make sure your are whole again.

*** USE AT YOUR OWN RISK. I am not a lawyer and this is not to be construed as legal advice. For any legal decision see the proper legal representative. You are the master of your soul.