CAHPTER 0: Preface: Is Mariage not working anymore?

Preface

Divorce! Oh God no! We don't talk about that. A perfectly normal response to how the American public reacts to that word. But I'm sorry to say when over 1 in 2 deal with it it's not a secret skeleton in the closet any more. There is a real problem. Our parents generation before us hopefully never had to deal with it, but also in not dealing with it they also did not learn anything about it. So they prepared their children for a world where the 'D' word is not uttered. We all signed up for marriage like it was a fairy tale and off we were set for an amazing time that we could not wait to experience. “Shutting Down Mom Inc.” is a book I wish I could time travel back and give myself when I started dating. The book is meant to be sound advice and techniques to protecting yourself from being used by your spouse or serious girlfriend. You might catch yourself saying “No, they would never” or “That's just inviting weakness into my relationship”. Lies! I tell you. Openness causes trust. We know this from the foundation of any relationship. We start with general conversation and by the time we are in a deep relationship we know the others (fears, loves, worries, dreams and more). We are not being open about this social reality and it is devastating another generation of young people. DIVORCE IS NOT THE SIN! ADULTRY IS, ANGER IS, WRATH IS, SLOTH IS, COVETOUSNESS IS... and on and on. Divorce is a man made remedy to not live in divorce's sin. God hates the sin and not the act of divorce. The following is an outline in as best systematic order as could be devised from real world experience of how to guard and protect yourself from being another badly broken individual. I wrote the following book out of passion and feelings of mixed love of my family and hate of the situation. The writing is like a manifesto and a reminder of a past not worth repeating. It lives as a reference. I pray it never be used as a weapon or a tool to harm. I only hope that we may live in truth, keep our passions alive and enjoy life as it was meant to be.

There is a lot about money and assets in this book, but also emotions and family. Some would think this a materialistic book, but I believe it is a combination that makes up life and trying to take back control of one's life when other person is trying knowingly or not steal it from you. You are no single object or occurrence but the sum of all those things. If your freedom to become who you wish is taken away along with the ability to bless your children in the way you wish them to grow-up I think this is far from a worldly view. It's stewardship of one's family, time and money. There are numerous ethical and moral decisions one needs to take, but this does not have to render you impotent and left frozen in fear. The goal is not only to live on, but to grow and prosper above and beyond what you ever could have in the soil of your previous infertile relationship.

Note: You may be in a different state in your relationship or not in one at all. These tools and words of wisdom will still apply and be relevant.

 *** USE AT YOUR OWN RISK. I am not a lawyer and this is not to be construed as legal advice. For any legal decision see the proper legal representative. You are the master of your soul.